Liar Liar or Just White Lies?

We all lie. The degrees of lies are what distinguish us.

There are the lies you tell when someone asks you "how much do you weigh?" or "what is your IQ?" or "what was your LSAT score?" For the record, I don't know my current IQ. I haven't been tested since I was in grade school.

Then there are the lies that people tell that rise to the Ponzi scheme level, the "I didn't kill her, but if I did here's how I would have done it" level, and the "the Holocaust never happened" lies.

Obviously, there is an endless wasteland in between.

So I went online tonight to see if my new affection interest had, in fact, deleted his online profile as he told me he had. Low and behold, it was right there, smack dab on the page when I searched. Not only was it there, but he logged on yesterday. Hmm...

I'm not sure how to handle the situation. You know, as lawyers, we are trained to somewhat cut off our emotions and check them at the door in exchange for a clean look at the evidence. A "just the facts, ma'am" kind of approach. Then again, especially as a plaintiff's lawyer, I believe in telling a holistic story including all the human details.

So riddle me this: Do I confront him on (1) having the profile up, and/or (2) signing in as recently as yesterday?

Leaping...

So I chatted over the phone with a guy I met from an online dating site. He sounded amazing on his profile. The only red flag is that he's divorced, but no one is perfect. Everyone has baggage, and I certainly have mine. So we had a blast talking on the phone for almost 2 hours today, and I'm over the moon excited about seeing him today. We're going to have dinner. I'm scared, but I'm going to take the leap. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. He already turns me on, after all. :-) WISH ME LUCK!!! Not everything should revolve around the law!

Advantage

General announcement: Don't take advantage of me, my friendship, my work, or my situation. It's not cool. It's not something you can take or leave at your leisure. I'm not here for your convenience. It's not appreciated, nor will it be forgotten.

Snap Judgments

It's kind of amazing to me how either life imitates the Bar or the Bar imitates life. Recently, a BFF of mine sent me a hypothetical, in honor of the exam, on an ethical situation. The same week, I had an ethical situation arise at the office that still makes me wonder whether or not there will be serious repercussions to deal with at some point in the near future. The thing of it is, for most of the ethical questions related to the Bar, it's fairly easy to make snap judgments and then support your position. The hypo usually starts with something like "Robin, a disbarred attorney who has a cocaine habit, has been doing work for newly-licensed attorney Leslie...." You know Leslie is going down for some stupid sh*t that Robin did. Leslie always needs to run as fast as humanly possible away from Robin, but never seems to do it in time. It's always a "don't let this happen to you," after school special kind of thing. But, then again, I guess I'm making another kind of snap judgment about those kinds of questions.

I Meant To Say It Before!!

So, I was painfully aware that the Bar exam was currently taking place. I really meant to wish you luck before it happened! Some of you I wish more luck to than others, as some of you will surely be [I deleted my rant]. But I wish to those of you who are particularly deserving that this time be YOUR time. I wish luck for you because the only difference between passing and not passing is sheer luck. So...LUCK!!!

Go Time

As I have more and more anxiety lately, I can't help but think that it's somehow related to the Bar exam by some sort of osmosis of sympathy pain or something.

I have an arbitration coming up July 20-22 and can't help but think of the similarities to the Bar exam. It's 3 days. It's full days. It's all or nothing at the end. It requires a LOT of writing. It involves a lot of judgment by others. And the fact that it's three days toward the end of July is an eerie and scary coincidence or twist of fate, especially since it was nearly exactly one year ago that a three day stint in July that allowed me to become a lawyer in the first place. I'm kind of freaking out.

Anyway, I know that it doesn't compare to the freak-out-edness that those who are sitting for the Bar feel. Trust me - if anyone knows, I know. I've been there not once, not twice, but three times. I'm an expert Bar taker, not like one of those people who could be sued because they take it just to steal bits of information away to companies to try to give an advantage to exam-takers. I'm a more authentic expert - I know the fear and how it affects you. Hell, I even took (and passed!) it during an earthquake.

For both of us, it's go time. Time to perform, get in the zone, whatever BS platitude cliche you choose. Whatever floats your boat. I just need to focus on what worked then and reapply it now.

Let's go get 'em, team!

WTF?

I have to wonder who the "f" some people think they are. Yeah, I am referring to someone specific, but I'm not going to go into details. It's not worth it. Suffice to say that this person (1) wouldn't understand or be able to spell the word "suffice," and (2) has an intelligence score that hovers around this person's shoe size. A$$hole...